Mama Needs a Minute

There are perks to working from home.
There are also perks to working outside of the home.
One of those perks is commuting. I know, I know. Commuting is the worst.
But is it?

Think of it this way. You leave a crazy work day then get into your car to head home. Unless you work at a school with your children whom you’ll be transporting home, you’re probably going to pick them up, or head home. There are a few minutes there, plus or minus a couple of well-placed stoplights, that are just you. You in the car. By yourself. Sitting.
I miss those minutes sometimes.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m super fortunate that I have the opportunity to stay home with my children. To see them and teach them and love them. but. There used to be a 3-4 minute lull from car to daycare that was just me. Me with my thoughts. Replaying what happened that day. Or what needed to happen that evening. Or simply, taking a few deep breaths. I like to call it decompressing.

My husband works outside of the home. When he’s headed home he usually calls to let me know. We have a brief discussion and some days I can tell he’s had a rough day. Yet that 25-minute drive does wonders for him. He’s had time to just be by himself, in the car, listening to music or whatever it is, and letting it roll off. By the time he walks in the door he’s ready to see the kids and help with the evening. Sometimes, I need that too.

It is different if you work from home. There is no commuting unless you count switching laundry from washer to dryer. Doesn’t count. There are no well-placed stoplights. No quick errands to the grocery store and no decompressing.
That’s why it’s so important to ask for breaks. Ask for a few moments to yourself to prepare for the next part of the day. Ask for a 10-minute, uninterrupted shower. Just Ask. You’re not weak or failing if you ask for a little bit of you time. But so often, we don’t ask until we’re at a breaking point. Or we’ve had a rough day and just can’t right now. By that point the you time isn’t so much of a break, but a band-aid until the kids, or you, go to bed to start over tomorrow. It is so very important to take-5 regularly. If you’re like me you feel a little bit of guilt about taking those few minutes, but it is necessary. If you’re doing it all yourself, you can still ask. Ask a friend or a neighbor or a colleague. You deserve a few moments too.

Today take a few moments just for you. Even if it means hiding in the closet with a magazine during nap time. You deserve a few minutes to not worry about all of your stuff and recharge for the next round.

Be Great,
M

20 thoughts on “Mama Needs a Minute

  1. So important to take care of yourself, even if that means a soak in the tub, a walk alone, or reading a book with a glass of wine. Everyone needs time to decompress and just because you are home doesn’t mean you don’t have stress. Always love reading your blogs, Meg!

  2. Working from home now, I sure miss the commutes. You’re right, the time in the car to calm down, listen to the new/music and reflect does wonders. Everyone needs some me-time!

  3. I totally agree with what you are saying about working from home. I recently switched to a remote job and at first though i would have alllll the time in the world to keep my house in order, go for walks, take breaks etc. The reality is you are working all day, every day, with little to no breaks or basic exercise. I have no problem scheduling in breaks for myself, it’s actually taking those breaks that I don’t do 🙁 I’m aiming to try harder next week.

  4. I totally agree that a commute can be decompressing. I travel a lot, and my best thoughts are on those long drives. As much as I hate them, I also love them for that. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Definitely needed this today, as someone who works from home, I took up running for this reason so that I could get out of the house and decompress away from the home. Once it becomes your living and working space it is hard to be totally stress-free.

  6. I went through this today. Sometimes I have to remind myself that even if it’s five minutes to myself, it’s all worth it. I’ve been adding more time in the shower because it’s one of my alone times throughout the day. My second is yoga.

  7. Yes, Yes, and YES! Working from home can be such a challenge with littles in the house. There doesn’t seem to be a spare moment to just BE. I’ve made the decision that I need a weekend away at LEAST once a year to travel by myself. It doesn’t even matter where I go. Aaahhh… sweet silence:)

  8. My commute used to be 45 minutes each way, and while it was long and sometimes painful, it definitely helped to relax from the day before I got home and had to jump right into my responsibilities there. But definitely schedule a break for yourself. You deserve it!

  9. I work from home and hime educate my two little ones and my husband works out of the home and its exactly as you say he calls when hes finished the drive is about 45 mins and he’s fine and relaxed when he gets home, i barely get to go to the bathroom haha but definitely need to take 5 thank you great post!

  10. I love this post. I can relate so much. We all need a minute sometimes. We all need some time out to ourselves just to recharge. I have started going to the gym by myself a couple of mornings a week, or if I can’t get a sitter or have too much work then I do mindfulness for ten minutes by myself instead.

    Honestly, it makes such a huge difference and sometimes we just need that small little moment to ourselves. I wish I could abolish mummy guilt for myself and everyone else. If I could have one superpower, that’s what it’ll be. xx

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