Opposites Attract

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Now this post is less about the kiddos and more about Mommy & Daddy.
I’ve always been interested in “personality characteristics” and why people act the way they do. I think it sometimes has to do with how they were raised and a big part is how they are wired. Nature vs Nurture. Voila!

Hubs and I did the 16 Personalities Test (a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator®)  personality inventory. You should definitely do it if you’re at all interested in a quick peek at your personality. I wanted to see if it was anywhere near where I see myself, or Hubs.
Funny thing, it was almost spot on. For both of us. Creepy.

Apparently, I am an INFJ: known as ‘The Advocate.’
From the site: Screen Shot 2016-08-19 at 12.09.47 AM
The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats (NF), they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.
Well if that doesn’t give you a little responsibility anxiety I don’t know what will. The site even goes through different facets of your personality. Again, eerily creepy.
My strengths are stated as follows:
Creative. I’ve done a few creative things in my day.
Insightful. I like to think so?
Inspiring & convincing. I’ll take it!
Decisive. That’s a miss. 
Determined & passionate: Like a dog with a bone.
Altruistic. Gonna need a dictionary for that one. Kidding, that’s nice of them to say.

Ahh but my weaknesses:
Sensitive (yup),
Extremely private, umm *looks at the blog* I’d say not…
Perfectionist. Me? Pshhhh. Never! (Stop laughing)
Always Need to Have a Cause. I like having a purpose, so sue me.
Can Burn Out EasilyI often tell hubs after a busy week that I have a people-hangover. Maybe this is why?

Whew, now that you know all about me. Let’s get to Hubs. muahahaha
He is what’s known as an ISTP-T: The Virtuoso. ooooh boy, here we go.
Again, from the site:
“ISTPs love to explore with their hands and their eyes, touching and examining the world around them with cool rationalism and spirited curiosity. People with this personality type are natural Makers, moving from project to project, building the useful and the superfluous for the fun of it, and learning from their environment as they go. Often mechanics and engineers, ISTPs find no greater joy than in getting their hands dirty pulling things apart and putting them back together, just a little bit better than they were before.”
Could this be why there are pieces of who-knows-what-kind-of-electronic all around? 
I think so.
His strengths are:
Optimistic and Energetic. No comment
Creative and Practical. Definitely practical
Spontaneous and Rational. By the number of times I’ve heard “Let’s go here today.” I’d say. Yes. 
Know How to Prioritize. Whose priorities are we talking about?
Great in a Crisis. Definitely, remind me to tell you a story about this, another time.
Relaxed. Any more relaxed and we’d have to check for a pulse.

His weaknesses:
Stubborn. Can I get an, Amen?
Insensitive. Not in a mean way, but a practical way, yes. As in, “Why are you freaking out, it’s nothing to freak out about.”
Private and Reserved. Ask his work friends. Half the time you don’t know if he’s excited or sad. One. Tone. 
Easily Bored. The man’s got more hobbies than a Hobby Shop.
Dislike Commitment. He had better not!
Risky Behavior. I would say this is a miss. 

After reading through both of our “profiles” and giggling at the absurd nature of how perfect they were for us I started thinking. How is it that we are so different, yet do so well together? I mean, it’s not always rainbows and butterflies, but what life is? AND we have two littles under 3. Yet, I couldn’t imagine myself marrying anyone else, ever.
Sorry Chris Hemsworth, I’m taken.

It goes back to nature vs. nurture. I definitely think that nature plays a big part in why I’m a bit neurotic and affected by the emotions of others so easily. Just as it’s a big part of why he’s so practical and straightforward. But I also think that we work well together because we choose to work together. If we simply stop working with one another, of course, things would fall apart. It’s the same for anything you care for, without attention and a caring hand, it too will cease to work as it once did. Though our life together has changed drastically from when it was just the two of us (anyone else hear Will Smith?) it is safe to say we wouldn’t have it any other way.

What is your type? Does it fit you?

Be Great,
M

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14 thoughts on “Opposites Attract

  1. I love the Meyers Briggs Personality Indicator! I’m pretty sure I’m also an INFJ. I will have to look at my test again, but looking at the words, that’s what I remember leaning towards. I was also moderate scoring in all of my preferences. I wasn’t a super strong preference on any of the traits. I like to think of myself as a fairly balanced person. 🙂

    It’s good to do this with your spouse! My husband and I assist at a conference for engaged couples, and all of our couples take this test. Then we talk about communication styles, personality preferences, etc. It’s pretty helpful in understanding another person’s perspective. Great post!

  2. I’m a total ENTJ! I’ve taken Myers Briggs several times throughout my life and never change. I’ve never taken the test with The Hubby, but I can tell you now that he’s almost the polar opposite. He likes to say we are the yin to each others yang!

  3. I’ve never taken this personality test before but I have taken many like it and it’s always exactly what I think it will be. The leader, competitor type personality haha.

  4. Love personality test! As a career advisor, I always ask the preferences, personality type, and strengths of those that I advise. I am personally a ISTJ and love chatting about this topic. Thank you for sharing.

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