The Best Advice

As a new…anything. You will get an insane amount of advice.
New Graduate: Don’t shy away from adventures and opportunities.
Newlywed: Don’t go to bed angry.
And so on…

I would hedge a bet that there is no other time in a person’s life that they receive more advice than when they are about to become new parents. There are countless books on the topic. Trust me, before Bubba, I read way too many of them and used none.

I am going to throw my hat into the ring and offer my advice.
Are you ready? Here is is.

Don’t take anyone’s advice.

Now I don’t mean ignore your doctors, I mean stay the heck away from Google.
I love me some Google but I will tell you, it is the bane of your existence when you’re trying to start a family, are pregnant or a new parent. Everything is either you’re fine or Go To The Hospital Yesterday, touted from the keyboards of computer-credentialed-doctors from all over the world. If you’re looking for a specific answer, you’ll find it. It just may not be right, or wise.
So, my absolute best parenting advice is, in essence, don’t take anyone’s advice. You will know what is best for your child and your family. If you’re unsure, pick a pediatrician you feel comfortable with and ask them. Your doctor has had, in theory, years upon years of training and practice in helping parents to raise healthy children. I’d like to think they know what they are doing, and if not, they can always ask the AAP.

I’d love to hear your favorite advice or non-advice. What is the craziest thing anyone has told you?

Be Great,
M

20 thoughts on “The Best Advice

  1. I do agree than the internet is a combination of information and misinformation…

    I would just recommend adding a few other professionals to your list of people who may offer good advice. Examples of professionals who may be well trained would include child psychologists, school counselors, social workers, clergy. Just understand the specific credentials (training and experience) of the professional and evaluate the advice to see if it makes sense for you. Don’t be afraid to seek second and third opinions.

  2. I love this post! It’s true that everyone always seems desperate to give you advice and it’s always well-meaning advice but it’s advice that works for them and may not work for you. And amen to that comment about staying off Google when you’re not feeling well, I made that mistake when I had migraines and according to Google it was a brain issue and I was dying!! Turns out it was my sinuses Lol.

  3. Interesting thought about giving and taking advice! I’ve received some advice that I’ve definitely rolled my eyes at, but I’ve also received some pearls of wisdom. I always love to hear someone else’s advice about something, because there is usually a story that goes along with it. Sometime it’s the story (out of which comes the advice) that contains teachable moments we can learn from. I may not take the advice, but I may takeaway something else from that person’s experience. Great post!

  4. I’m totally on board with this. I have an expecting friend and I am sometimes tempted to tell her how it is but she needs to figure it all out for herself. Everyone has an opinion, there isn’t one correct way to do everything.

  5. Take no advice is the best advice! My parenting tip to every parent is we’re not expected to know everything. Don’t expect to do it perfectly. Just do your best.

  6. Sing it, sister! I always say, the people who write the infant books don’t know your child, and your child can’t read it anyway!

  7. Ahhhh the imterwebs can be the best and worst thing ever. I’m convinced these days you can find info backing anything you google!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *