I’ve seen him.
Usually, late at night or early in the morning as the sun is peaking through the windows, he’s like a whisper in the darkness. I glimpse his shadow in the quiet.
He is many forms during the day, though I rarely see him on his own.
He brings memories of times past, a simpler life that I cherish but no longer crave.
His scent reminds me of carefree summers and charcoal grills.
His hands once held mine, now they hold my children. I give up my place with no regret.
For I know I will find my way back to him in time. Our attention is split between our children, our responsibilities and our dreams. Yet I know where I stand in his heart. He once told me that I will always be his number one love, I do not doubt him, even now when the time we have is so thinly split. I know he is mine and I am his.
Finding time for ourselves, as a couple, often comes lower on the list of responsibilities these days. We enjoy the time we take at the end of a busy day, once the kids are asleep, to check in and just sit and listen to one another. I think we take the strength of our relationship for granted when we get busy. Though his support as I embark on this blogging journey is what helps me to keep going during late nights and early mornings.
I am making a promise, here and now, to continue to pour energy, understanding, and attention into our relationship as partners and as parents. A good friend once shared something very smart with me. She told me of a time that she was asked, “if your child were sick, you’d do anything to help them heal, correct? Shouldn’t you do the same with your marriage?” Ding! Nailed it!
Now, our marriage is neither sick nor in trouble, but I do believe it needs constant attention and energy, which we’ve been slacking on in lieu of sleep and child rearing. It happens, but things worth having are worth working for.
There’s a man in my house, and I’m quite sure I married him.
How do you spend time with your partner/spouse when life gets busy? Let me know!